Whoa. Two days… in. a. row. Are ya shocked? ;)
I’m actually sharing a card that’s pretty appropriate in my life this week. I know we’ve all done this (and if you haven’t, you’re either forgetful or you’re truly a saint ;)… and “this” that I’m talking about is the easy and sometimes knee-jerk reactions that we have on social media.
A few situations came up this week with a long-time friend of the family and also a situation with something back in our IL neck of the woods that had my hubby and I pretty perturbed. I admittedly am the first person to roll my eyes when i see “cryptic” posts online. I’d be lying to myself, and you all, if I didn’t admit that I used to do this a lot more, actually, but since I’ve been attending my church and have been so blessed with an amazing group of local friends and a church family, not to mention my own, I really felt that God was convicting me to not be so ‘out there’ as a knee-jerk reaction to being hurt or upset.
In fact, I even deleted my Twitter account last year as a result. I have made it a point to NOT share personal things on my blog anymore as a result as well.. but today’s message was important enough and I felt that I should write.
In the past two weeks or so, I’ve had a few friends come to me asking if I was upset with them. I was absolutely like ‘huh? NO! Why??”. Turns out they were projecting what I was putting out there onto themselves and I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t do that part of it as well sometimes. Granted, SOMETIMES when we project it’s because we are guilty of doing something, but most of the time, it’s because it’s very hard not to know what the person is thinking or feeling, even though we are convinced we do.
Moral of the story, and I’ll keep it short… I don’t like to be the “Debbie Downer”. I am the first to roll my eyes when I see people posting every ‘horrible’ thing that happens to them online. Yeah, sometimes it feels good to vent, but it feels better to pray, talk to a trusted friend (and I underline TRUSTED), or just simply LET. IT. GO. Baggage and yucky stuff don’t deserve a place in your head, and don’t deserve a place in mine.
It also made me realize that it’s simply NOT NICE. Just because I’m hurt doesn’t mean I should be using a public forum to blow off steam. I am the first person to tell someone when they’re upset to go to the source. I need to listen to that because it’s sound advice and the only way we can work to resolve anything. So, I’m working on that.
Today’s church sermon? Forgiveness. I love that God always knows what we need and when we need it. If I’m not the only one this week, I hope this helps you, too. My card is one I made while on the SCS Dirty Dozen and I haven’t gotten around to sharing! It uses The Greeting Farm’s “Simply Anya” stamp and the sentiment? Well, that would be truth if I dig down deep. It may have offered immediate gratification to blow off steam, but in the end…….
I shouldn’t have used social media to blow off steam because I was upset about two incidences, especially in light of the fact that neither person was on this particular means of seeing what I wrote. All that did was cause confusion to the friends who care and even if they had seen it, what would it solve? I’m gonna try like heck not to do that anymore, but I warn y’all now, I may very well do it again because I’m human. No excuse, but we know it can happen.
I want to be a LIGHT to my friends… not a “Debbie Downer” because life dealt me a few bad hands this week… and the funny part is, it probably didn’t. It dealt me hidden blessings to be able to forgive someone from the burden of our friendship and even though it makes me sad and probably always will, it’s better for me and my family. It’s helping me to forgive some unfortunate trespasses dealing with someone who we are allowing to use something we own in good faith, and most of all, it’s helping to forgive myself for the things I’ve said and done, even if it was a few rants that would have gone best unsaid.
I hover over the ‘post’ button now, because I don’t like using myself as an example when I’ve done something wrong. However, I’m hoping this may help someone think twice, JUST like I need to, before they, too, fall into the all-to-easy, all-too-comfortable trap that social media sometimes offers us. Hope that makes sense.
Bottom line? Forgiveness=freedom. Who’da thunk? <3